I like a woman’s input. We are both in our 50s. Inever realized women our age could have such a high sex drive. I am not completely impotent, but I cannot go nearly as often as she wants. We have pretty much settled into a routine of me giving her oral, and she seems to like it. So I don’t think she will leave for someone younger right now. But I wonder if she will eventually get bored.
so I hope you don’t mind me responding to this post. I am a 36 y/o female and I strongly believe that if my partner is willing to work on his ED issues and not reject me then I would not leave. As long as he holds me and gives me attention in other ways and would be willing to use toys and imagination….Im NOT going anywhere because I love him for more than his penis. Since I turned 34 I realize that intercourse is definiately not everything. I need the mental stimulation as well. I feel in love with my SO before we even had sex.
I think problems arise more when the man gives up completely, ignores his ED issue and makes the women feel rejected.
Another thought is, if you are just dating someone new you may have more of a challenge in keeping them.
It’s hard to articulate how much better I feel when my testosterone levels are on the high side rather than the low side.
Normal levels are 350 to 1000.
My Dr. is a kind of specialist on testosterone. He has a daily use topical testosterone formula specially compounded for his patients. Whoo! I felt the results in just a few days. I feel it also if I miss for a couple of days.
I also get injections every two weeks. Once a month didn’t work for me. The first week would get eaten up by estrogen, two weeks were great and the last week I was dragging.
He does know what he is doing on male hormones.. (He told me last visit that most Dr.s are not up on the subject. Research in just the last year or two has rendered all the old literature obsolete).
He does not agree that men have to accept lower levels as they age.
“Normal” for me at age 70 would be in the 300 range.
He is very comfortable with keeping me in the 800 range.
The difference for me is:
I have at least twice as much energy
Twice as much stamina before that wave of fatigue passes over me.
I can do much more physical work before getting “shaky”
My thinking is clearer, with less “old age” confusion
And most important of all (first things first !)
At 300 my libido was about gone. I still had sex regularly, because I have to to keep sane, but it would require Viagra and direct stimulation to get hard. Staying hard was sometimes a problem.
I never ever had sex dreams or morning wood.
With keeping the level steady at around 800 my libido is way up.
I sometimes have sex dreams (oh joy).
I have morning wood every morning (More like balsa wood than hickory, but at age 70 who’s complaining)
I still need cialis or generic tadalafil 20mg but less of it and I can keep stimulated and stay hard for the long “sex holidays” that I love.
I just plain feel better in all respects. I’m less concerned about what age is doing to me.
I would tell any Dr that I won’t accept “normal” testosterone for my age.
I would be insistent that he help me keep my levels at the higher end of the normal range. If he won’t do it, I’d find another Dr who will.
It can be the difference between feeling old, fatigued and sexless and a stud who can do a days work and perform at night.
A book that changed my life is “The Testosterone Syndrome” by Eugene Shippen, Md
He has a way of self administering the shots subcutaneously on a more frequent basis. I do the shots into the belly fat every week. No need to blow a half day going to the Dr.s office
If I knew “back when” what I know now, aging would not have been half as scary.
because they don’t use it I can get it if I want to from pharmacy but that means a Dr visit so I get it free.
John I just returned from the Grocery store two trips to my carto unload no pain before I would have to rest in between trips.
I can only tell you that a 1000mg with a few bites of C cheese in the morning and again at night has performed a near miracle on this problem it will only take you a couple of days to notice if it will work for you.
Today I also took about 2 tablespoons of Apple cider vinegar with grape juice twice I feel much much better still to soon in this to make an all out declarationbut this is nearly unbelievable.
Seems you must have had a few girl friends and found out these answers long before now.
Usually the answer to your question is unanswerable as every gal is different.
It has been my experience with only one gal who swept me off my feet by grabbing me and giving me the kiss of a life time. Still good after 54 years.
Over the past few days there have been some “harsh” words used against other peoples choices of trying to deal with impotence. We are supposed to be members of this blog to “support and encourage” each other and for the greater part that is exactly what we are doing most of the time.
For me having impotence was very destructive. I was rapidly losing all confidence in having sex and I was very near to the edge of depression.
I was losing self esteem as a man rapidly. I tried herbal remedies with little or no success.
My doctor prescribed sildenafil citrate 100mg, thinking that it would be the better option for me. However, that turned into a nightmare for me as the sildenafil 100mg gave me the most severe lower back ache I have ever experienced in my life. It was so bad that I ended up being off work for 1 week. Sildenafil citrate is a drug that I would never take again.
I was started on cialis and it meets all my needs. It works for me just as it’s supposed to with great results. My self esteem is nearly back 100%. Pumps and implants are not required by me just now, but who knows what the future will bring.
or by hand help you achieve an erection? Are most women willing to do this for a husband/lover if that is the only way be can perform? When a new dating situation starts approaching sex, how do you think a woman will react if I ask her to do this? Doe the fact that at 58 I need physical stimulation to perform mean that I will be completely impotent any time soon?
If we do the math we can see what you are actually getting compared to what I use.
My mixture is #5 or what is called 30:1:10
Papaverine 30 mg/ml
Phentolamine 1 mg/ml
Prostaglandine 10mcg/ml (notice the change in units)
Phentolamine 0.6 mg/ml
PGE1 5.88 ug/ml = mcg/ml
I can see you are getting about 1/2 the dose per mg that I am getting.
If the prescription is genuine I would suggest increasing your dosage by 10% each injection till you creep up to about .16 cc. If you have no leakage problems you may still need some more. I am pretty sensitive to TRIMIX and only need about .08cc with my mixture #5 which costs about $101 including shipping from this Canadian Pharmacy. You should be able to ask for a prescription which you can send anywhere.
It is essential you learn how to get a reliable injection each time. The reason is, if you miss the cavity several times in a row and increase a little each time and then get the syringe in the cavity for the first time you will have a jump in dosage you don’t want.
Tease the penis to get some blood in the cavity and squeeze the blood toward the end increasing the diameter of the injection site. Bury the needle all the way to be sure you are thru the wall of the cavity and unload the syringe.
If you try to inject into a flaccid penis laying over your thigh with the walls of the penis against each other, you can not easily find where to stop the needle so it only goes into the cavity. When it goes in the wall, you get a lump that goes away but can cause scarring I have heard if you keep it up.
I was told to increase gradually to see what happens when I get more than I want. It became very uncomfortable after 2 1/2 hours.
Someone e-mailed me with a nasty e-mail accusing me of working for a company that sells penile implants and am trying to get customers, so I figure I better clear things up.
No, I do not and never have worked for an implant company, though I am flattered that you think my enthusiasm is that impressive, that you think I may be.
I came to this site in October of 2007 quite frustrated about my ” lack of sex ” life and frustrated with all the treatments out there that I found not pleasant and not worth the aggravation to have to use to be able to have sex. A few guys wrote in about having penile implants done and honestly I had never considered the thought of it, because I thought they were for old men. I’m 53 and though middle aged, I still don’t consider myself old yet. Amazingly enough I found an ad in the paper about a doctor who was holding a seminar on erectile dysfunction. I signed up and it was a complete review of all the ED aids out there. The last one being a penile implant. I talked to him afterwards a bit and asked if insurances cover the surgery and the implant and he said most do, because it falls under a quality of life issues. I came back on this site and talked more and then hit my wife with the question and the joy in her eyes settled my decision.
I haven’t even used the implant yet. Its only two weeks since surgery so I am not going to say another word about it until I have my first love making session. I have to wait six weeks after surgery to use it so as of tommorrow I have four weeks to go. The first day of spring is when I plan my initial attempt.
My enthusiasm about the implant only comes from what i’ve read and been told by others. It is a 100% cure and the fear and worry about ED actually vanishes from your thoughts, so I am told. Thats what I want most of all. I’ve lived with this for almost 15 years and as drastic as an implant may be, it seems like the thing I’ve been looking for after all these years.
I’ll be back on the first day of spring to give you all an open and honest report.
Signing off till spring..
for some types of leakage with surgery when I visited him in Boston. I understand he is now in CA and if you are willing to travel, I think he is ranked as one of the best. Not sure how to determine that for sure.
I wrote him after reading his book and got my appointment to begin trimix injection therapy in 1992. Still works about the same. Still great.
venous leak and arterial disease causing my impotence. Anyone have any experience with venous leak surgery. Found one doctor who does it abroad. Was just curious if anyone knew about results or actually had it done.
They don’t close off properly and the blood drains away into the body. Since it leaks away, an erection can’t be sustained.
The only “treatment”, if you can call it that, is vein replacement. I had this performed during my PD surgery in 1998. Plaque and veins were removed and the veins were replaced with veins from my leg. It never worked consistently since. I was straighter after the surgery but the venous leaks prevent a “good” erection. The DICC and Color Doppler tests have confirmed what I already knew about the veins. The peniles injections may be a way to go for you. Have you worked with the injections yet? It is not as bad as it sounds.
Has anyone had any successful treatment of a penile venous leak? I’m 43 and it has gotten worse and worse over the last several years. I’m about to go see my 6th urologist. I’m beyond frustrated.
A pal of mine is emailing me it. I will let you know if it is good. Supposed to be all natural methods… combination of diet, hypnosis and exercises. My friend said it was good but let’s see. Just call me the guinea pig if you like.
Get back to you in a couple of months (the claim is that in two months you should notice an effect).